The Workings of a Counsellor's Head [Blog]

What goes on in a psychodynamic/systemic counsellor's head whilst he's working…

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Counsellors are human too… what goes on inside their heads can make the difference between chatting with your best mate… and chatting with a good counsellor.

Some counsellors refer to the stuff going on in our heads as “Counter-Transference” or “Projective Identification“. It means that our minds (and our bodies) are listening and responding to the client… in addition to what our ears are taking in. If we use this additional information well, it can make the difference between a client working with an ordinary counsellor… and a really effective one.


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Posted by on 29 May, 2015 in Blog | 0 comments

Telling the Client what they Don’t want to Hear

When I listen to a client tell their story, I'm not just listening to the words. I'm also listening to my internal responses: to how my emotions are reacting, to if my body is responding. I'm "listening" to how everything that is me is receiving the client's story. As a psychodynamic counsellor, I'm paying attention to my counter-transference.

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Why are some Counsellors Charging Surprisingly Low Fees?

Posted by on 8 Apr, 2014 in About Counselling, Blog | 0 comments

Why are some Counsellors Charging Surprisingly Low Fees?

To make an informed decision about counselling, it can be helpful to understand (or even to ask) why a counsellor's fees are very low when compared with other more established, more experienced local therapists.

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Depression – and how others might behave

Posted by on 15 Mar, 2014 in Blog | 0 comments

Depression – and how others might behave

In my counselling work, I get to hear about the difficulties people with depression have in trying to explain what depression is like… to other people. Don't know what I mean? Try describing a sunset in ways that convey the feeling of the beautiful experience. A bit difficult, isn't it. So, here are some images related to depression… and some inspiring ideas on how one might behave towards someone with depression.


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Why are some Couple Counsellors not Qualified?

Posted by on 14 Feb, 2014 in Blog | 0 comments

Why are some Couple Counsellors not Qualified?

Some couples see counsellors who are not properly qualified. This article describes why this is, why it can be dangerous and how to check a counsellor's qualifications.

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Asking the Questions ~ that no-one else has asked you before

Posted by on 12 Feb, 2014 in Blog | 0 comments

Asking the Questions ~ that no-one else has asked you before

When people have friends and family, why would they consider visiting a counsellor? Because we have skills in questioning that no-one else has. Read more…

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