What is an Assessment for LGBT Couples Counselling?
Before a couple commences counselling, every ethical and professional therapist must perform an assessment with the couple beforehand (read about LGBT couple counselling). This informs both the couple counsellor and the couple if entering a counselling relationship may a good idea or not.
Initially, the couple meet with Dean Richardson to go through a process called “an assessment”. The couple and Dean must first determine if therapy is an appropriate and helpful choice for the couple, and if it is then the couple and Dean must discover what is the therapy intended to address. The couple is assessing the therapist as well as assessing if they can work together in therapy.
It is not unusual for the couple to find the assessment process therapeutically valuable too as the assessing therapist asks questions of the relationship that, perhaps, the couple have never addressed before. Some couples proceed into counselling, some couples find that the assessment does enough for them to go it alone.
The Assessment Process.
An assessment for LGBT couples counselling takes a minimum of four sessions and can take longer if helpful:-
- Session 1: the couple and Dean meet to discuss an overview of what is needed from counselling.
- Session 2: one partner meets with Dean on their own. This is to discuss their perspective on the couple relationship, and to discuss some personal history.
- Session 3: the other partner meets with Dean separately as in session 2.
- Session 4: the couple and Dean meet meet again to discuss what we have learned in the previous sessions, and to begin to set a focus about what the couple counselling should address.
Couples therapy cannot successfully proceed with different agendas (i.e. both partners wanting different things from therapy). If necessary, session 4 can be repeated for a a longer time to see if the couple can be helped in negotiating or compromising upon what should be the focus of therapy for their relationship.
There is no hurry – and each couple’s approach is different.
By the end of the LGBT Couple Counselling Assessment.
With an agreed focus for therapy, subsequent sessions are lead primarily by the couple themselves. The therapist offers support, listens to the couple’s discussions with occasionally offering observations and therapeutic hypotheses on the relationship intended to help both partners learn what might be going on in their relationship. With new information the couple can learn what is different, and difference is a relationship or a change in the relationship (Selvini et all, 1980) inviting the couple into making more informed choices, change patterns of behaviour and be less held “at ransom” by unhappy behaviour.
A main intention of LGBT couples counselling is to help disturb the relationship’s unhappy behaviour patterns by being curious and interested on the relationship system (learning about automatic behaviours occurring within the relationship), learning & finding new information and allowing inspiration to address what is being learned … plus being creative with solutions to alter behaviours … solutions that the couple will gradually come up with themselves.
The process encourages space for thought and inspiration – allowing the couple’s relationship to become unstuck again and leaving the couple no longer in need of further therapeutic intervention.
Every gay and lesbian couple are different. Every mixed-sexuality couple are different. The assessment process (and couple counselling process) are a firm and reliable template upon which individual couples can work through relationship problems unique to their own relationship.
What to do next.
If you and your partner believe that you would like to meet with Dean to discuss your needs for LGBT couple counselling, make contact to arrange an initial appointment today.
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